...She like me, feels that the so-called tagged Q3 that my dealer claims was ours and another dealer claimed it was actually sold to someone else who was willing to pay a higher price and the salesman/dealer agreed.
Another dealer CANNOT merely claim a sold car. Do you have a document from them (and accessaudi) that shows the car's status in your name. You should have. As soon as you gave them a deposit, they should have documented the car as yours within accessaudi - as a "SOLD- Customer Sold Order" under the Order Type. You should have a "Commission Number" and an Order Status (prolly IS or 05).
Here's a short summary of Order Status :
IS or (05) : INTAKE ORDER BANK - this is essentially an allocation request for specified content (options) - but at even this point, the Order Type should show Customer Sold. Until it reaches the next step, you can modify things like options, color etc.
(10) FACTORY ORDER BANK - at this stage the allocation has been committed by the factory and content (options) cannot be changed.
(15) PRODUCTION STOCK - the car is built.
(20) INTRANSIT FROM FACTORY - this includes inland Europe (e.g. Martorell - Wolfsburg - Emden) up until ship-loading and oversea shipment.
(25) PORT STOCK - at this point the car is in the destination port (for me Brunswick, GA)
(30) INTRANSIT INLAND - this is where the car is moving from the port to the dealer.
(35) DEALER STOCK - as you can guess, by now arrived at the dealer
(40) DEALER DELIVERED - the last (sometimes) progress stage noted.
If you don't have a document showing you the Commission Number and Order Status, they may have been smoking you from the beginning. If you find/prove THAT to be true you have solid grounds for a lawsuit that quite likely would end up with you having at least a FREE car and possibly a free dealership as well. In the end it could be as likely that AoA would pull their franchise from such an unscrupulous bunch. Check your buyer agreement ASAP - on the other hand IT might give them the right to enact such a deal fully empowered to do so - it's a contract after all. They SHOULD have also put your car and you into Audi Customer In-Waiting - a sort of serial email notice to you at some of the stages above, so you can anticipate and drool over its arrival ...
Do you know a cop - check if "your"car has been registered. Or, go to another dealer and see if a car meeting your spec has been in the pipeline recently and delivered "somewhere else."